Wednesday, March 08, 2006

how it is now

it is very, very sweet right now between us.

we had a couple of bad days right after he came back from KY....he was sick and exhausted, and i was working a lot. i felt like i had "been there" for him up to, during, and after his ordeal; and now i wanted him to "be there" for me--but he was still not fully recovered from the double whammy of travel + illness (+ being accused of terrible things by an unfriendly "ex" as well--guess that's a triple whammy, huh?).

#1 rule of relationships: don't ever, EVER "expect" your mate to be able to pick you up when you're down. even if you trade off on picking each other up, there will inevitably come a time when you're BOTH down.

we all need to remember the unseen force that moves in all things. THAT'S what will pick you up when you are down.

ennaway (that's how we Western folk say "anyway"), it was a miserable 2 days where we were edgy and uncomfortable around each other until we talked it all out.

i must say, a good temper tantrum helps bring everything into sharp focus. how will we deal with discord? how will we process the recovery? how will we make up (best part!)?

we did really well and now i am finding him completely irresistible. how's that for a comeback?

and yes, we are planning the dreaded day of departure--but i don't really want to talk about it.


At 3/8/06, 6:28 PM, Blogger Christopher said...


At 3/8/06, 9:57 PM, Blogger Becca said...

good for you...I just went through a similar time with my husband, and it is really hard to keep focused on what really matters when both of you are down and cranky. I am really impressed with how you processed this experience. Love is so hard and beautiful at the same time. I also enjoyed finding my chinese symbol - thanks!

At 3/9/06, 7:38 AM, Blogger nancy =) said...

hooray for you 2 =)

forget about departure day...stay in the right now...


At 3/9/06, 7:20 PM, Anonymous veronica said...

if ya need a tantrum coach i've got experience
ms discordia

At 3/10/06, 7:29 AM, Blogger kath said...

you are a very wise woman..

I am so glad that you are also a very happy one..

departure? boo hoo..

I will be sad with you.. but.. even if he is not in touching distance.. you will both still be within loving distance..

all will be well

At 3/10/06, 12:09 PM, Blogger Cootera said...

Yes, but you go to Minnesota when?


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